Haven't blogged in O too long! Gonna jump right in. I love family, marriage; its great. I chose to stay single, not because I hated family or marriage, but because I felt that it was one way that God was calling me to be able to support it. I love working with couples preparing for marriage. I love trying to create a kid friendly church, where children are seen as a blessing and joy rather than a distraction. That being said, it is more difficult than ever to find a good spouse, to keep said spouse, and to raise good children.
Of course there are many factors as to why it seems more difficult today than it did 3 or 4 generations ago. Many blame technology, the economy, or globalization. Others celebrate the freedom in which women are more easily able to leave abusive husbands, stating that the divorce rate would have been just as high 150 years ago if women had rights.
I am only going to offer one thought on families. This comes from my personal experience growing up in a single-parent household, my studies on church teachings, and my ministry with couples and families. It also stems out of a recent Twitter conversation that 140 characters could not deal with.
I believe that if couples placed more priority on their own relationship than their relationship with their children, their family will be more healthy. This is includes prayer as a couple, date nights and supporting each others actions in front of the children. When couples sacrifice their relationship for their children on a constant basis, they grow farther and farther apart. I guess the question is, what is better for a child? To have a mom and/or a dad who love them (but not each other), or a mom and a dad who's love for each other pours forth onto the children and models for them what true love really looks like.
Now of course I am not saying that mom and dad should be absent parents, going to bingo every night and letting grandma take care of the kids. I'm just saying that there is a reason that, biologically, couples come before kids. Maybe our priorities need to be that way as well!
Agree or disagree? I would love to get a comment thread going on this!